Regardless of how you feel, regardless of what they say, it is not possible to help these people. Let the narcissist worry about their own feelings for once. No one can change or control another person, and no one has the right to try.
Rage is coursing through him, furious and visceral rage which obliterates any rational thinking. It's important to remember that even a little bit of poison is still poison.
Maybe you could make a list reminding yourself of the ways they've hurt you. But instead of ending the relationship with this person - who obviously cannot be faithful for whatever reason - the faithful spouse argues and fights and insists the cheater change. They can be as awful and sneaky and wrong and abusive that they want to be - and many of them will.
Regardless of how you feel, regardless of what they say, it is not possible to help these people. It is akin to a caveman dragging his wife back to the cave. If they don't, then you should move on.
All we can do is get out of the situation, learn and move on. If there is a weapon to hand it will be used. If the latter happens, call the police at your first opportunity. There's no new information there.
Thus his instinctive reaction is both to stop your departure and to draw fuel from you. This goes for any type of relationship, not just romantic ones.
Posted by: Mukazahn | on October 2, 2012
Some people may have narcissists in their family , for example, that they feel they cannot cut all ties with. He lashes out left, right and centre in the immediate and pressing need for fuel.
Take it for what it is and work on doing better next time. It will get easier once you realize that breaking No Contact often bears no rewards, only painful learning experiences. Why am I doing all this hard work?
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I understand you may have established great friendships with these people during the course of your relationship but if you did date a narcissist or sociopath, he or she has likely staged a smear campaign against you and you will not get any validation or support from these people. You get cancer from continuing to smoke.